Quite a bit of wine had already been consumed by the party of four sat together in the pub. This included me, The Girlfriend (luckily Cupids arrow was not laced! See 'Why Lesbians Should Celebrate Valentine's Day' if you've no idea what I'm on about!) and a couple of mates.
As happens when large quantities of alcohol are consumed when trying to have a rather calm and civil evening, someone drops a deep and meaningful topic into conversation towards the end of the evening. A debate that's rather challenging with brains not fully functioning and with slightly less brain cells than we started the evening with.
It's normally me that gets the drunken heated debate's going, so was rather surprised when The Girlfriend who openly self declares on a frequent basis that 'she has no opinion on anything (dog shit on city streets being the exception to the rule) and is happy to drift along whilst the likes of me try and change the world, decided to start a debate!
The conversation went something like this:
"One-night-stands are all about ego"
Two of us at the table immediately questioned this statement, stating that one-night-stands are not just ego, some times they were about self-harm, distress, frustration, low self-esteem and heart-break.
The Girlfriend and other friend at the table were adament, whether pain or pleasure, one-night-stands are about fulfilling your needs, wants and desires, to make you feel better, to make something in your life feel less. It was all still ego.
The conversation then shifted to what the definition of ego was, with me saying that ego implied selfish super-inflated behaviour and self-image and that not all one-night-stands came from this.
I went on to express that ego regardless of official meaning could not be used so sweepingly to describe one-night-stands because of the connotations associated with the word. That it was negative and insinuated a selfish act. Can one-night-stands really all be described as such? It seems so harsh to me.
This brought the conversation back to the definiton of ego and where we started the debate, that one-night-stands are all ego regardless of why we do them.
The debate remains unresolved.
What do you think?
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