16 Feb 2013

Living up to a label when failing the prerequisites


This weekend I'm running in the Brighton Half-Marathon as a result of a crazy moment last year when I thought that setting myself some challenges might be good for my soul.

Of course having been forced to train in bitter winter temperatures and against icy on-shore winds; the half-marathon now a mere day away, the idea of running 13.2 miles on Sunday for a healthy soul leaves me thinking that more sedate challenges in the future might suffice.

I'm running as part of the Bear-Patrol team, a community fundraising group who raise money for the Sussex Beacon, an HIV inpatient unit and specialist service provision. Hanging out with gay “Bears” apparently makes me a “Beaver”.

In the post 'The lesbian checklist', I described how I had failed many of the prerequisites of a “lesbian” label: no ownership of a checked shirt, no knowledge of how to get a BBQ going, the Channel 4 ‘Gay-O-Meter’ mocking me as a “straight acting girl”, the 'femme test' at Pride failing me as “Oh dear”. Now I have been christened with a new label which is as butch as they come.

Beavers are adept at DIY after all, capable of building their own 'lodge' and delux swimming pool! Their skills with building materials as renowned as a butch lesbian!




Labels can feel somewhat of a burden, with stereotypes whether we like them or not giving us plenty of fodder to jest and joke at each other with amongst our LGBT peers, especially when we don't fit them.

As I am determined to finish the course and not fail for the team tomorrow or my soul, being a 'Beaver' that's butch without the accompanying stereotype skills necessary, might just be a label I'm successful at! 

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