Like A Pack of Wolves

A recent ex of mine asked if anyone was after me now that we had split up. I tried to change the subject without effect. “Is it someone I know?” she proceeded to probe.

I refused to enter into conversation on the matter, knowing this was a path that was not going to maintain harmony and amicability between us should I divulge any truth.  My silence and attempts to deflect away from the subject confirmed her suspicions, “Lesbians, they’re like a pack of wolves. I knew the moment we’d split up you’d have offers!”

Personally, I was taking the shows of interest as a compliment, more to do with my winning personality than the animalistic tendencies my ex eludes to in the lesbian population of Brighton. But I understood what she meant.

Maybe it depends on the circle of girls you know but it seems inevitable to me that girls who love and lust girls, that live and socialise in the same city on the same scene are going to end up hooking up and breaking up.  It’s well documented and known that lesbian circles are incestuous. Draw a ‘family’ tree of a group of gay girls like Alice’s L-Word chart and it clearly shows this reputation is not a myth and well earned. 

Shagging your mate – isn’t that how it works in lesbians circles?! If not your mate, then your mates ex or best friend, or your girlfriends ex, or the woman your ex had an affair with?!  I just have to think back over my own past and my girlfriends were friends, or friends of friends or from the same social circle. Even when it’s a girl you don’t know, befriend her on Facebook and it turns out that 20 of your mates already do! 

Occasionally it’s completely unexpected, it’s someone that now your single you’ve got to spend more time with and gotten closer too.  More often though you can guarantee that beneath all the joviality of friendship are smouldering passions just waiting for the opportune moment.  As friends you’ve had a spark for years and at some point alcohol takes the worries away of crossing that boundary from friendship to lovers, even if just for curiosity sake.  

I once started to put an L-Word chart together but just as digging out your family tree can unearth the family secrets so too can compiling one of these. Within a short while I abandoned the ‘tree’ as it became apparent very quickly that, ‘some things should not be written down for others to find’.  It was simply too explosive, a risk I wasn’t happy to take for what was too me a bit of fun interest. 

It is one of the less appealing aspects to being a lesbian and a challenge for any of us to deal with. For just as my ex automatically assumed that any interest I was getting would be from someone she knew, one thing is for sure, it’s no wonder that lesbians always come in pairs for their next love interest is never far away.