One Night Stands - The Forbidden Lesbian Fruit

It started with a text,
'Cme c how us Northerners do it. Pride, BBQ party in eve, girlz cricket Sunday'.
Whether my mate realised or not, she had mentioned the magic word - girlz. Before I agreed to come up, I asked about the local talent,
'Plenty of horny Northern lasses tht wuld b eager 2 meet a well seasoned Brighton belle'.
 I didn't need any more convincing and swiftly bought my coach tickets.

I invited another mate along  for the expectant fun and frolics on offer for the weekend. On route up with excited anticipation, topic of conversation was focused on the girls we'd done, who we wanted, whether there would be eye-candy and whether we'd pull. In my mind I had every intention to if the opportunity was there - and I planned on seeking out opportunity. My mate admitted she'd never had a one night stand and didn't know if she could. As we discussed it, she remained unconvinced about her emotions in doing the deed and the morning after.

But that's the thing. This topic can generate a discussion amongst a lesbian group with a diverse reaction, much disapproval and in some cases judgement. Personally I like one night stands. I love sex, I love women, I love their bodies. I love the chase, I love the flirting and I love leaving them satisfied and wanting more. I love it that my antics make my friends cry with laughter and I've always got a story to tell. I've met wonderful interesting women (who then go on to be friends) through shagging them and getting to know each other over the morning coffee.

I've had others challenge me that it's just 'loveless sex', yet I've had more heartless/loveless sex within a relationship. Everyone knows about lesbian bed death where couples merely go through the motions, with very little love involved.

My mate tells me she can only have sex with someone she's going to have a relationship with. I guess just as the joke goes that lesbians move in on the second date, equally sleeping together on the first makes you a relationship!

But that sort of pressure is exactly what would have me running from the situation as soon as dawn had broken. I have no issues with having relationships and I'm not avoiding commitment - far from it. May be that's it really; I take who I give my heart to as a serious matter and that cannot be judged from one night together.

But why is it still that having a reputation like Shane from L Word is attractive, because we all want to be like her or be the one that tames her, but not someone you would actually become or want a relationship with? Why is it that gay girls find it hard to say 'thank you' and 'goodbye'? Is it our genetic make-up, or is it culture that shapes us? Men are seen as experienced studs to have lots of notches on the bed post, but for a lesbian, you run the risk of a tarnished reputation and are judged as untrustworthy and incapable of having a relationship?