My gay mate comes over for a cuppa (definitely a sign I’m getting older!) and a catch up.
“I just can’t get enough sex at the moment” he tells me. “I’m on Grindr every night meeting guys and arranging sex. I think I must be making up for all that lost opportunity in my 30s!”
I’m no psychologist, but we’ve known each other for many years. He seems in a contented space, happy with all the ‘fucking’ now going on. He’s 42 by the way and it seems no longer happily single,
“I think I’m ready for a relationship” he explains. We’ve had this conversation before, about how gays and lesbians do things differently when it comes to finding a long term partner. He explains again anyway, just to clarify and presumably justify his burst of sexual activity to me, though neither is necessary.
“I’m ready for a boyfriend and to find a boyfriend I have to fuck lots of boys. That’s how guys work, you fuck first then you discover if you’ve got a connection. If you don’t fuck first, you’ll only ever have a friendship!”
It is true that us girls seem to pursue in a different manner summed up a couple of days later, this time with a lesbian mate (and this time over a pint!)
“So have you heard from …” I enquire wanting to get the updates. Our conversation goes along like the following:
“Oh yes… she’s now seeing her best mate, you remember…and so and so is seeing… that was always on the cards, as they met at that dinner party and got on… and She’s seeing… they met at the women’s choir… and They got together; they’ve been friends for years and then when she broke up with her girlfriend…………………..”
“How did you meet your girlfriend” I ask.
“We were introduced at an event by a mutual friend” my mate replies. “How did you meet your girlfriend” she asks returning the question.
“We were introduced by a mutual friend out one night at a bar” I reply.
It seems that us girls like to the do the fucking part 'after' we've 'friended' our way to a girlfriend. So if you're seeking love, I suggest joining lots of groups and making lots of friends!
Gosh, I'm 43 now and I'd rather have a cuppa and a natter and maybe a slice of cake than a bit of rumpy pumpy humpy humpy! I must have gotten old as summer faded into autumn.
ReplyDeleteJoining a choir might also be a good option, especially here in Brighton, I know three couples who have met over the last year or so after joining the local choirs, singing it seems brings people together!